Dads Point Of View: August 2009
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Wednesday, August 26, 2009

Finding Good Friends

Like any parent, when it comes to your children picking friends, we all hope they pick the right ones. I can't believe some of the stories I hear my Daughters tell about what's going on with their friends, the disloyalty, the back-stabbing, the hating, I try to give my 2 cents and say "that's not a true friend", but they look at me like I don't know what I'm talking about. I pray they will listen to me and choose their friends wisely, I tell them that friends are important and some last a life-time.

Sunday, August 23, 2009

Tough Love

Like other parents my age, we grew up in an era of the "belt on the butt discipline". And believe me our generation is way more respectful, responsible, we had work ethics, I don't think the kids now a days even know what that means. I've come to realize that it's all our fault, We're too busy trying to protect our children from the way we had it. Maybe you were poor, or parents were druggies or alcoholics, or whatever it might be. We take whatever it is and we say I'll never raise my kids like this, or my kids will have it way better than I did. Well I feel the same way, however do you remember when your Mom or Dad were mad at you for whatever and that feeling that you would have in your heart, you would try to avoid seeing or talking to them for a while, hoping they'll forget...that feeling in your chest is fear and disappointment mixed together. As a kid do you remember doing something wrong and saying "oh man, I'm so in trouble". Listen, to feel like that your parents had installed a sense of fear in you, for every time you mess up you were nervous of the end result. And mostly it was disappointing your parents that would hurt the most.

In these days you can't use the "belt on the butt technique", you might lose your children, so I don't advise that as the way to go, I'm using the sit on the toilet method, basically having to tell them to stop doing something more than 3 times "go sit on the toilet", and it's usually for only 2 mins, it's like a Hockey penalty. So now when they start getting out of control I just suggest "Oh do you guys want to go sit on the toilet?" And of course it's a quick "No" and a quick shape up, for a little while anyways. This seems to be working, I explain to them what they have done wrong and they'll have a couple of minutes to think about it. I will give an update in a couple Months or so. (maybe sooner)

Monday, August 17, 2009

At the Abbotsford Air Show

We went to the Abbotsford Air Show, well sort of, we have a friend who lives right across the street from the airport, so we had pretty good seats for free... Man, those planes are loud...and fast!!!!
I can't believe how close the planes get to each other.. Anyways we had a good time and as always the boys are non-stop acting silly.....

Sunday, August 16, 2009

A quick vid of the boys at the Aquarium

This is us at the Aquarium, the jellyfish looks so electrifying, and boys are always acting silly..

Wednesday, August 12, 2009

Fun at the Aquarium

We went to the Aquarium with the boys and Daejsha, and there were way too many people!!!! But we still managed to have a great time. The dolphins were the best part, the octopus was definitely the creepiest, but the parana fish were the coolest. They had a 4D show as well, and the boys could not keep their glasses on because they were so scared. Taejshon was ready to go not even 5 minutes into it. We saw the Beluga Whale and a lot of exotic fish including the Sea horse which I can say I've now seen..

Sunday, August 9, 2009

When can boys call me?

There comes a time when every father who has daughters must make that decision. I've decided that this is probably the time. Shaylynn my oldest daughter, who is 16yrs old asked if she could have boys call the house. Well I thought about it for a sec, sure why not, she really only had one particular boy she wanted to call her, even though they talk at school and through facebook. So I told her if her friend was willing to come over first and meet the family, then he could call the house. Well he never came over and that was that. I don't know if that was the right decision or not, maybe Shaylynn figures he's just not the right boy to bring home. (yeah right..)

Thursday, August 6, 2009

Bedtime drama

It seems to always take about an extra hour to get these guys to bed. Around 9 o'clock we'll say "okay it's time for bathroom and bed," and like clock-work the prolonging begins. It will first start with, "Can I have a night-night snack, even though the answer is no, somehow they end up with something. After the night-night snack comes the real drama, we let them watch a movie and they're suppose to switch who picks the movie every night, well somehow that just never works, it ends up becoming a big argument. Well really it's just my youngest son Taejshon, somehow he's never wrong, I wonder where he gets that from. Anyways we've switched to the calender system, where we put each ones initial on every other day, so far it's been a success, sorta...

Wednesday, August 5, 2009

Sleep through summer

Wow!!! I can't believe how long one person can sleep, Daejsha (my second oldest 12yrs old) does not come out of her room until at least 2pm. She comes out, looks around and says "hi dad", goes in the kitchen and makes a microwave egg sandwich, then back to her dungeon for another couple hours, then out again to ask "what you making for dinner?" Unbelievable.... I would be a little worried but she stays up pretty late reading the Twilight series. And I've seen the size of those books they're like 4 bibles put together..